Monday, July 2, 2012
Helping A Friend Going Through A Break Up
Looking from the outside in it isn't hard to pass judgement on anyones relationship. You can never tell how serious the relationship was or wasn't. When a friend is going through a break up i feel it is important to keep your opinion of the relationship to yourself even when asked. Your friend already has mixed feelings of the person they were in a former relationship with, leaning one way will probably tell them you dont care about what their saying because your mind is already set. Another thing is stay away from the "I told you so" speech. They become extremely annoying and mentioning it will probably bring alot of hostility and maybe even a break in friendship because the lack of friendly support. Its always good to help someone cope with their situation but it is also important to make sure your helping and not offending someone.
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THERE IS A WAY TO GIVE YOUR OPINION WITHOUT OVER STEPPING YOUR BOUNDIERS.
ReplyDeleteThats true but i still think somethings are better left unsaid especially when your dealing with a super emotional person or someone who doesn't take critism constuctively.
ReplyDeleteTRUE I FEEL WHAT YOUR SAYING
ReplyDeleteI had a friend who had her mind set about one of my relationships. I felt like she thought she was giving great advice, but in the end, I felt like I wasn't making my own decisions about the situation. And, because I respected her and valued our friendship, I took her advice...until it just didn't work for me. What I really needed was her support. I think if you can be a friend, and just be there, that's the best thing you can do.
ReplyDeleteSomething support is the best thing to get from a friend when your in the time of need. There's nothing wrong with listening to them and them listening to you but if your the one thats hurt or the person who is effected more you should be the one talking instead of listening.
ReplyDelete@ApollosFancy, I agree. If you do too much for a friend and their relationship, that can actually end up hurting them and the other person in the relationship. Theyd end up more hurt then if you just left them to their own devices.
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